Before You Speak, THINK: A Leadership Framework for Women Executives

Recently, while walking, I came across a stone wall covered with inspirational signs. I named it “The Wall of Enlightenment.” One sign, in particular, resonated deeply with me: THINK.

THINK stands for:

• T – Is it True?

• H – Is it Helpful?

• I – Is it Inspiring?

• N – Is it Necessary?

• K – Is it Kind?

These simple yet powerful questions provide the foundation for thoughtful and effective communication. In leadership, the way you communicate can either drive success or create unnecessary roadblocks. By applying the THINK principle, we can streamline decision-making, foster healthier work environments, and model a leadership style that empowers others.

1. Applying THINK in Leadership

Before speaking or acting, consider these questions. Is what you're about to say rooted in truth, and will it help your team move forward? For example, passing on hearsay or unfounded information can lead to confusion. By prioritizing truth and relevance, you provide clarity and build trust.

2. Mindfulness in Action

THINK aligns seamlessly with mindfulness—pausing to reflect before responding. Leaders are often under immense pressure to make quick decisions. But taking just a moment to apply THINK can help prevent knee-jerk reactions, allowing for more thoughtful and effective leadership.

3. Emotional Intelligence

Emotional intelligence (EQ) is key for high-powered executives, and THINK naturally supports it. Asking yourself if what you’re about to say is kind or necessary taps directly into empathy and self-awareness. It also fosters a culture of psychological safety, where teams feel valued and supported.

4. Work-Life Integration

Balancing a demanding career and personal life is challenging, but THINK can help here, too. Not every problem at work or at home requires your immediate attention. Apply THINK to prioritize the tasks and conversations that truly matter, enabling better time management and more meaningful connections.

5. Building a Supportive Network

Leadership isn’t a solo journey. Use THINK to guide conversations within your network—whether mentoring another woman executive or seeking advice. Thoughtful communication strengthens bonds and builds a community of mutual support.

6. Self-Care and Well-being

Effective leadership starts with well-being. Ask yourself if your current pace or workload is necessary and kind to yourself. Prioritize what truly needs your attention, and give yourself permission to step back when needed. Strong leadership requires a foundation of self-care.

7. A Call to Action

Incorporating the THINK framework can transform how you lead and interact with others. Take a moment each day to pause and reflect on these questions before communicating with your team, stakeholders, or loved ones. The result? Clearer decisions, stronger relationships, and a more thoughtful leadership style.

In leadership, what you model trickles down throughout the organization, shaping culture and productivity. By adopting the THINK principle, you create a foundation for more intentional, impactful leadership that benefits not only you but everyone around you.

I Was Born to Do Great Things

Recently, I had the privilege of visiting the Broad Museum to see Mickalene Thomas’s "All About Love" exhibit on its second to final day. The museum buzzed with excitement all eager to experience this powerful show. As the closing hour approached, it became evident that no one wanted to leave. When the staff realized the announcements weren’t working, they had to gently usher us out, including myself.  The experience left me with much to reflect on.

Mickalene’s work spans various mediums—from photography and sculpture to painting, interior design, video, lighting, and sound. Every sense was engaged, immersing me in the art in a way that was both profound and personal. As I stepped outside, my husband asked me to pose in front of her house for a picture. That’s when I noticed a beautifully crafted sign that read:

“I Was Born to Do Great Things.”

In that moment, I felt a deep connection, not just to Mickalene’s message, but to the empowering truth it embodies: we all have the potential for greatness within us.

What Does It Mean to Be Born to Do Great Things?

1. A Positive Declaration: This phrase is more than just a motivational statement; it’s a powerful reminder that each of us has a unique signature. Embracing this idea allows us to explore our individuality and contribute to our fields in ways that only we can.

2. Embracing Leadership: Leadership isn’t just a title—it’s a mindset. Each of us is a leader when we take the initiative to become the best versions of ourselves. This affirmation encourages us to delve into our own leadership journeys, defining what success looks like for us.

3. Continuous Growth:  I was recently introduced to Eddie Turner Jr and his book "140 Simple Messages to Guide Emerging Leaders". He reminds us that being an emerging leader doesn’t negate your existing leadership qualities. "You are a leader! You have potential for even greater leadership capacity! Keep developing! Keep growing!, and Keep emerging!"

Recognizing that we are born to do great things empowers us to pursue our aspirations and cultivate our talents. It gives us a destination and inspires us to reach for it.

As I write this on my birthday—my personal new year—I’m taking time to plan how I will uncover and fulfill the greatness within me that is eager to be revealed.

How does Mickalene Thomas’s message inspire you?

A Night at the Hollywood Bowl: Leadership Lessons from Danielle Ponder

One of my favorite summer traditions is attending performances at the iconic Hollywood Bowl. The natural beauty of the setting, combined with the palpable excitement in the air, always makes for an unforgettable experience. My recent visit was particularly special, thanks to an outstanding performance by Trombone Shorty and an unforgettable opening act by rising star Danielle Ponder.

Danielle’s entrance was modest, but the moment she began to sing, the entire Bowl was captivated by the sheer power and emotion of her voice. After a few songs, she paused to share her personal story with the audience. Originally from Rochester, New York, Danielle had made a bold and inspiring decision just before her 40th birthday: she left her successful career as a public defender to pursue her true passion—music. Now, at 42, she graces the stage of the Hollywood Bowl, opening for Trombone Shorty.

Leadership Lessons from Danielle Ponder

1. Follow Your Passion

   • Danielle’s story struck a chord with me. Despite having spent years studying law and building a career as a public defender, she realized her true calling was elsewhere.

   • For women in leadership, her journey serves as a powerful reminder: pursuing your passion is essential to a fulfilling life. Take risks to avoid the lifelong "what if?" moments. Sometimes, you must take a leap of faith to discover your purpose.

2. Embrace Gratitude

   • During her performance, Danielle expressed heartfelt gratitude to Trombone Shorty for giving her the opportunity to perform at the Bowl.

   • As leaders, showing appreciation to those who give us opportunities and those who work with us can foster a positive environment. Acknowledging others helps build a culture of appreciation and stronger relationships within your team.

3. Engage and Inspire

   • Watching Danielle actively engage the audience—drawing us into her performance—was a masterclass in engagement.

   • As leaders, it’s vital to create an environment where every voice feels heard and valued. This inspires teams, motivates them, and ultimately unites them toward a common goal.

A Personal Reflection

Danielle’s journey resonated deeply with me, especially as a leadership coach. Leading others starts with leading oneself. Her decision to align her career with her passion reinforces the importance of self-leadership. It takes immense courage to pursue a dream that may seem unattainable, but when we take that bold step, we open ourselves up to true fulfillment.

Thank you, Danielle, for taking us on your remarkable journey. Through your courage, gratitude, and ability to engage, you’ve shown us that women in leadership can not only lead but thrive when they align their work with their true passions.

Channeling the Panther: Unleashing Grace, Strength, and Resilience in Leadership

I was in a breakout group with other executive coaches at a conference.

Someone asked:

"What is your favorite animal and why?"

I thought about the question, and several animals went through my mind.

THE GIRAFFE

Giraffe—I had read a book many times to my grandkids about Gerald, a giraffe who couldn't dance and the other animals made fun of him until a cricket told him, "You can dance, just listen to the music that makes sense to you."

When Gerald began hearing music that made him feel good, he began doing all kinds of moves, and the entire kingdom was blown away.

All the animals wanted to know Gerald's secret. I loved the story because it was a message that I encourage my clients to uncover, and that is what speaks to them so they can function with authenticity.

Back to answering the question of my favorite animal…

THE LION

Lions—I went on a safari in South Africa and recalled their majesty in Kruger National Park. Riding through their natural habitat and observing their power and grace is a treat.

Of course, there's the amusement I get from watching Simba, the adorable lion in The Lion King, both in movies and on stage. Even though it was exhilarating to visit and see lions in their homes, they are not my favorite animals.

I closed my eyes, took a deep breath, and saw a sleek, elegant panther.

THE PANTHER

Panther—My uncle, as an early teen, was in a hospital for a year from a debilitating disease of the limbs. This was what the doctors said, but nothing stopped my uncle. With his limbs that didn’t allow him to walk, he learned to dance.

While in the hospital, there were art classes, and he made the most exquisite panther sculpture.

This panther took center stage on my grandparents' coffee table. It was a conversation piece. I couldn’t believe my uncle made it—it looked like a piece that should have been in a museum. Through a challenging time in my uncle’s life, he produced a masterpiece.

My favorite jeweler is Cartier, and the Panther is the icon for the line.

In 1933, Jeanne Toussaint was appointed director of Fine Jewelry for Cartier (the first woman in jewelry appointed to such a high position. She went on a safari where she saw panthers and returned to France to incorporate panthers into her jewelry line. She said, “It symbolizes femininity and independence." 

However, I have observed many parallels for women in leadership to the Panthers.

The panther's qualities resonate deeply with the qualities of decisive, impactful leaders:

1. Presence and Confidence: Panthers move with a presence that is felt even when unseen. As leaders, it’s crucial to develop a presence that commands respect and attention, even in the subtleties of our actions.  This majestic creature doesn’t need to roar to assert its influence. 

2. Adaptability and Stealth: Panthers are known for their stealth and adaptability in the wild. Similarly, successful women executives master the art of strategic thinking and adaptability, navigating complex corporate landscapes with poise and precision.

3. Resilience and Mastery: My uncle's perseverance to create a masterpiece despite his confinement for a year in a hospital speaks volumes about resilience. Executive leaders face countless challenges and unexpected situations. Harnessing resilience turns obstacles into opportunities to create significant impacts.

Although Jeanne Toussaint was on a safari In Africa, her fascination with the animals in the wild and her keen observations brought the idea of taking elements of the majesty, elegance, and presence she saw in the Panther and bringing that to Cartier—another example of how leaders can find inspiration to bring about innovation. 

The panther's grace, strength, and strategic nature mirror the qualities of high-level executive women. By channeling the spirit of this magnificent animal, women in leadership can navigate their careers with confidence, power, and resilience.

Share your favorite animal with me and your why.

Unlock Your Potential: Embrace Simplification and Success

Anne's Recipe for Success: The Power of Simplification

Picture this: the joy of leaving a friend's house, not just satisfied but truly fulfilled, after relishing a delightful meal that leaves you smiling from ear to ear.

That's the kind of satisfaction my friend Anne delivers every time I visit her.

Her secret?

She affectionately refers to herself as "Dr. Touch Up," attributing the magic of her cooking prowess to Trader Joe's products.

According to her, Trader Joe's offers the best basic ingredients, and she adds her unique flair with one or two simple staple ingredients from her pantry and refrigerator.

01. Anne's Culinary Philosophy

Anne's culinary philosophy, centered on this straightforward two-step technique, has consistently delivered exceptional results.

I vividly remember a Thanksgiving when I faced the daunting task of preparing mashed potatoes for 30 guests. With time running short, I reached out to Anne for advice.

Her solution?

Trader Joe's frozen mashed potatoes, elevated by her one mysterious "magic" ingredient.

I'm sorry, but I can’t tell you what that is, as she has sworn me to secrecy.

I followed her guidance, which was so easy, and to my amazement, the mashed potatoes became the talk of the feast. No one had ever said anything about the potatoes that I peeled, boiled, added butter, cream, salt, pepper, and garlic, and then mashed, mashed, and mashed.

It was a revelation: simplicity could indeed yield extraordinary outcomes.

02. Applying Anne's Approach Beyond the Kitchen

Reflecting on this experience, I began to apply Anne's approach to other aspects of my life.

Like crafting a Trader Joe's dish, I examined how to simplify my endeavors and add my unique touch to achieve success.

I discovered a winning formula by distilling ideas and projects to their essence and infusing them with my brand's essence.

A. The Power of Simplification in Leadership

As an executive and leadership coach, I guide my clients through this process of simplification and self-discovery.

By asking the right questions, I help them unravel the complexities they've woven around their goals, enabling them to recognize their brilliance and chart a clear path forward.

B. Embrace Decluttering: Another Form of Simplification

Consider this: what single element could you add—whether it's appreciation, excitement, belief, determination, desire, focus, patience, or silence—to elevate your next endeavor and entice others to join you on the journey?

Just as simplification is key, so is decluttering, another form of simplification.

Imagine eliminating one ingredient from your life—be it excuses, outdated narratives, or the relentless pursuit of perfection.

By decluttering, you reveal the true potential and abundance surrounding you, opening doors to endless possibilities.

Conclusion: Embrace Anne's Recipe for Success

• You can simply simplify your endeavors and add your unique touch.

• Decluttering is a form of simplification.

• Eliminating extra steps in your processes can lead to extraordinary gains.